Couples

Couples

Being in a committed relationship can provide safety and security, however, all too often relationships can veer away from the connection and companionship that we all yearn for.  We get into patterns with our partners where we find ourselves repeating the same argument over and over again. We don’t understand why we can’t get past this block to develop what we really want in our relationship which is someone who accepts us, enjoys us, supports us, works well with us and provides a sense of safety in connection.

At Collingwood Psychotherapy and Yoga Centre, we believe that we are all wired to connect and using relational, attachment and trauma theories, we will work together to discover what is getting in the way of you being able to do this. We will find ways to understand and then actively transform these roadblocks to connection building a secure attachment between you. This requires a lot of active engagement from you - and the outcome is worth it. 

Often there is one partner who doesn’t think that therapy will help. We make every effort to hear the perspectives of each partner and to find ways to deepen your attachment to each other. We are not  referees or judges, but rather skilled listeners and relationship specialists, ready to notice the moments of connection that you may have lost the ability to attune to. We will help you start to make those small connections with each other that are the basis for building trust, interest, safety and intimacy. We will help you find ways to work through conflict towards repair and forgiveness. We will work to deepen your respect for each other, your friendship, your ability to communicate freely and more understanding of the ways to interpret your partner’s efforts to repair with you. 

Being in a relationship is an opportunity for growth, for developing intimacy and it requires a lot of effort, dedication and self-discipline to sustain it. Knowing how to cultivate close connection, support, being known and accepted, having someone to depend on and a greater sense of self are wonderful outcomes of couples therapy.